Given the conversations on the Blogora about feminist issues like gender equality, name-changing, etc, when this book popped up, I knew I needed to post it (if for nothing more than to encourage Jim :o) ).

An excerpt:

… For me, the scariest part of getting engaged was feeling as if I were suddenly buying into an identity that wasn’t my own.

I was having a bridentity crisis.

Suddenly I was supposed to care about floral arrangements and classical quartets. Suddenly I was supposed to like poufy white dresses and showing off jewelry. Suddenly I was supposed to buy five-hundred-page glossy magazines and take a strong interest in decorative bows for the backs of rented chairs.

I was a bride, but I wasn’t that kind of bride. I didn’t care about any of these things. I just loved my partner, Andreas, and I wanted to have a big party to share that love with our family and friends.

Most of us freaks, feminists, and free-thinkers want our weddings to be a unique reflection of ourselves — and yet somehow, once we start planning a wedding, that concept seems to fall by the wayside. Tradition has this eerie way of creeping in and taking over. And while the traditional wedding is a superb choice for traditional folks, I’m always amazed by how many nontraditional types find themselves getting married at a wedding that looks like it belongs to someone else...

Her blog has a lot of letters, stories and photos: http://offbeatbride.com/

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